something new

hello fellow bloggers and readers.

i've something new for you today. a new blog.

its called "justthinklovelythoughts".

do you like it as much as i love it?

let's all move to a new home, http://www.justthinklovelythoughts.blogspot.com/

see you there!

xoxo,
adura sayangness

eat. pray. love.

Last nite was date nite. all about dating. sometimes we miss the fact of dating with our boyfriends or fiance or husbands. we may go out EVERYDAY but it does not mean its always a date, right? Think back. We're sometimes caught up with family, chores, work, staying late for god knows what, friends and just about any other reasons andddd we forget the moments we went thru before. Those days when its all about rainbows and butterflies. Trust me, WE create the spark so just when it's about to dim, try lighting it back. A step might take a loooonnnngggg way. I'm just saying, insyaAllah it will :)

There's practically so many ways to do it. Husbands, you might try putting on the apron, prepare a good dinner (or cheat by takeouts), light some candle, play your fave song, you know all those things you did when you do to impress your loved ones. Okay, maybe its too much to ask for? Whats wrong to ask out you fiance, wife or girlfriends for a great date? Dressup go for dinner and movie perhaps? Something out of the norm you know. Not the ones you do after lectures or work, the normal routine drill.

We, humans, sometimes forget the person we were before. Thats no doubt. When we first met, we made sure all things perfect. Dress to impress. Makeups what not, skarang? Whatever can do, kaann? Why? So we can't be as pretty as Alexa Chung or as sleek as Zac Efron (OMG i cant believe im saying this but he has grown up handsomelyyyyyyyyyyyyy) but at least we tried. TRY! TRY! TRY! tak salah kot kan?

And so last nite we actually went out for a date. Macam dah lame tak kluar dating and put everything else behind us. I chose the movie so it should be EAT PRAY LOVE.

First thing first, if its a Julia Roberts movie, please watch. I just love the way she smiles. It just lightens up a room. She was so great in here with the fact that she had to take up lessons to speak italian and indonesian. Oh yes she said terima kasih alright.

The movie was about a woman named Liz who loved travelling and in search of herself. She left her marriage to soul seek. Left everything behind her; career, family, lost her savings and cash due to her divorce but so determined to search herself in Italy, India and Indonesia.

So she went from Italy to learn a new culture, to learn, love and respect having a family. Believe me its moving enough when all things may crumble but what stays are our family. Family. I remembered a malay saying "air yang dicincang tak akan putus" (I'm really embarassing myself here now, did i get that right?). But really, don't you think it's right? No matter what, i know i'll always have my family. No matter what. Even if i don't see them as often (god knows how i feel about this), talk to them ever so often, even if i suck at time and i always know i've my family to back me up but i love them so much. So very much. Another thing she learnt in Italy was to love life. To enjoy life by doing nothing (if only la kan? Duduk saje tapi money comes rolling, sume pon nak! )

Then she went to India, to learn to be closer to God. Mencari hidayah dan keimanan la tapi she chose to go to India. Liz was not the pious type. Never prayed. Never close to God. Kenape die tak pilih pegi Mekah? Maybe sebab ini cerite omputih la kot kan? Nanti conflict... Boring betul. So in India she tried being closer to God, try to be kusyuk and all la.. Tapi earlier she can't because she had no reason, no faith, with the fact that she could not forgive herself for being married and hurt the person she shouldn't. So she chose to pray for someone else who was a girl she befriended in the ashram. And she learnt to forgive and redha with everything that happened. She learnt from a guy in the Ashram who had a much worst case than hers. Tapi tu la i tak paham, this mat saleh, they can just hop around, you know born Christian pastu tak pasal-pasal nak pegi India la pegi Dalai Lama la, suke hati mak bapak dorang. Faith suke nak bercanggah. (Syukur alhamdulillah i'm not them. Ya Allah, kuatkanlah imanku. Teguhkanlah imanku :)

Then later on, Liz went to Indonesia, Bali to be exact. Before i brag further on, places they went here was rather beautiful and i loved the fact that Liz so called chalet was stunning and Felipe (kekasehati Liz) had such a beautiful house. Sangat cosy. So bali. Liz went to Bali to meet the dukun she met on one of her past holidays to Bali, named Ketut Liyer. Funny kan? I can't stop laughing. Ketut was more of a fortune teller. Here's what contradicted with my believe as well. Liz depended so much on Ketut. Whatever came out his mouth, she'd take it whole heartedly. And so this Yoda like dukun told her so much on her life, money and love life and Liz would listen and live it. He said that life has to be balance, in life and after-life. To love a person too much and to live life the fullest would lose your balance and to pray too much would too. Wow, really? We need to learn and love ourselves before loving others. Something i've heard often.

And so i would tell the whole story, but i think i'd kill the fun and... i think i need to finish my reading on this one since i left it un-read for a long time now. :)

But what i would sum here is we should always EAT, love life, enjoy life, PRAY, kene selalu ingat Dia. kene slalu bermohom kat dia. and LOVE, to cherish the ones we love, spouses, family friends. All these are simple rules BUT it's just unfair to walk out on a marriage just because...

and the award goes to...

with papa love

..noradura binti zubir, yes that's me, as the newly engaged.

maybe its a month too late.

maybe its already stale

SO WHAT?

i've been awarded. i've been appointed as the new bridezilla

YAHOO!

However sad news is, i need to put my engagement pix a PNC in respect of my dearest mother. Tapi maybe its okay to share some of the hantarans and favours and guests pictures? Perhaps she has a plan on this. And maybe it will be for all of you. A video montage on my BIG day? Nakkkk... :) With all my favourite songs in it.Wow! Best sangat.

Oh, have i told you i'm such a lousy bride-to-be? Yes, yes, everyone's telling me that i'm used to attending and organizing a wedding but believe me when it's mine, everything seems everywhere. Nervous kot? Ke syndrome ape ni? Ape pon i tak settle lagi. Theme? I taktau... Even Nad and Elis yang nak kawen mid- to late next year pon dah ade theme and color scheme okay!!! Me? Yang nak kawen insyaAllah in March ni langsung la takde idea, tau tak?

Padan la muke kan? Pegi browse Martha Stewart la ape la sume.Online tengok, magazine beli, thru experiences, friends FB's sume pon check out tapi bile pikir-pikir, i can't even settle with one!? Sigh. I bet Mama will be in rage if she knows this. Kejap nak all white, kejap nak red and gold, kejap nak romantic, kejap nak fresh, kejap nak elegant or glamorous theme. Mati la kan?

*sigh*

"Ya Allah Ya Tuhan ku. Tetapkanlah hati ku, Tetapkan imanku. Mudahkanlah jalan ku ini, Terangilah jalan hamba Mu ini, jauhkanlah kesusahan daripada hamba Mu ini. Sesungguhnya hanya kepadaMu aku bermohon pertolongan Ya Rahman, Ya Rahim"

Semalam, we actually sat and talk on our plans. Wedding plans. Nervous ok. Tipu tak nervous. And i really hope as much as i want my dream wedding, i hope as much as i want my dream marriage, my dream life, i wouldn't want to waste our funds on unnecesary items. Please Adura, do NOT stray. And like i told mr. fiance, i'll try to minimise cost (macam DIY wedding favors, invitations and hantarans) if i could so we could have more for the necessities. Syukur Alhamdillah i have a good team with me, cukuplah dengan mama, my sister and mr fiance. i hope in this early stage (nak early cmane if you have only 6months to plan a wedding?) we would be able to cover as much as we could and hopefully throughout the journey, the rest of the family would join in hand.

Oh, tidak lupa pada bakal mak andam/makeup artistku JUMIE SAMSUDIN. Thank you so much for having faith in me. She actually booked me in her 2011 diary and made me priority. Sangat terharu ok? How can i not be? I love her make-up do on my engagement. Or at least i felt more like a princess. Good enough kan? Hehe. Self-esteem mesti ade okay people, even tho kepale memag tengah serabut stress nak meletop tahap gaban.