Tuesday, October 12, 2010

eat. pray. love.

Last nite was date nite. all about dating. sometimes we miss the fact of dating with our boyfriends or fiance or husbands. we may go out EVERYDAY but it does not mean its always a date, right? Think back. We're sometimes caught up with family, chores, work, staying late for god knows what, friends and just about any other reasons andddd we forget the moments we went thru before. Those days when its all about rainbows and butterflies. Trust me, WE create the spark so just when it's about to dim, try lighting it back. A step might take a loooonnnngggg way. I'm just saying, insyaAllah it will :)

There's practically so many ways to do it. Husbands, you might try putting on the apron, prepare a good dinner (or cheat by takeouts), light some candle, play your fave song, you know all those things you did when you do to impress your loved ones. Okay, maybe its too much to ask for? Whats wrong to ask out you fiance, wife or girlfriends for a great date? Dressup go for dinner and movie perhaps? Something out of the norm you know. Not the ones you do after lectures or work, the normal routine drill.

We, humans, sometimes forget the person we were before. Thats no doubt. When we first met, we made sure all things perfect. Dress to impress. Makeups what not, skarang? Whatever can do, kaann? Why? So we can't be as pretty as Alexa Chung or as sleek as Zac Efron (OMG i cant believe im saying this but he has grown up handsomelyyyyyyyyyyyyy) but at least we tried. TRY! TRY! TRY! tak salah kot kan?

And so last nite we actually went out for a date. Macam dah lame tak kluar dating and put everything else behind us. I chose the movie so it should be EAT PRAY LOVE.

First thing first, if its a Julia Roberts movie, please watch. I just love the way she smiles. It just lightens up a room. She was so great in here with the fact that she had to take up lessons to speak italian and indonesian. Oh yes she said terima kasih alright.

The movie was about a woman named Liz who loved travelling and in search of herself. She left her marriage to soul seek. Left everything behind her; career, family, lost her savings and cash due to her divorce but so determined to search herself in Italy, India and Indonesia.

So she went from Italy to learn a new culture, to learn, love and respect having a family. Believe me its moving enough when all things may crumble but what stays are our family. Family. I remembered a malay saying "air yang dicincang tak akan putus" (I'm really embarassing myself here now, did i get that right?). But really, don't you think it's right? No matter what, i know i'll always have my family. No matter what. Even if i don't see them as often (god knows how i feel about this), talk to them ever so often, even if i suck at time and i always know i've my family to back me up but i love them so much. So very much. Another thing she learnt in Italy was to love life. To enjoy life by doing nothing (if only la kan? Duduk saje tapi money comes rolling, sume pon nak! )

Then she went to India, to learn to be closer to God. Mencari hidayah dan keimanan la tapi she chose to go to India. Liz was not the pious type. Never prayed. Never close to God. Kenape die tak pilih pegi Mekah? Maybe sebab ini cerite omputih la kot kan? Nanti conflict... Boring betul. So in India she tried being closer to God, try to be kusyuk and all la.. Tapi earlier she can't because she had no reason, no faith, with the fact that she could not forgive herself for being married and hurt the person she shouldn't. So she chose to pray for someone else who was a girl she befriended in the ashram. And she learnt to forgive and redha with everything that happened. She learnt from a guy in the Ashram who had a much worst case than hers. Tapi tu la i tak paham, this mat saleh, they can just hop around, you know born Christian pastu tak pasal-pasal nak pegi India la pegi Dalai Lama la, suke hati mak bapak dorang. Faith suke nak bercanggah. (Syukur alhamdulillah i'm not them. Ya Allah, kuatkanlah imanku. Teguhkanlah imanku :)

Then later on, Liz went to Indonesia, Bali to be exact. Before i brag further on, places they went here was rather beautiful and i loved the fact that Liz so called chalet was stunning and Felipe (kekasehati Liz) had such a beautiful house. Sangat cosy. So bali. Liz went to Bali to meet the dukun she met on one of her past holidays to Bali, named Ketut Liyer. Funny kan? I can't stop laughing. Ketut was more of a fortune teller. Here's what contradicted with my believe as well. Liz depended so much on Ketut. Whatever came out his mouth, she'd take it whole heartedly. And so this Yoda like dukun told her so much on her life, money and love life and Liz would listen and live it. He said that life has to be balance, in life and after-life. To love a person too much and to live life the fullest would lose your balance and to pray too much would too. Wow, really? We need to learn and love ourselves before loving others. Something i've heard often.

And so i would tell the whole story, but i think i'd kill the fun and... i think i need to finish my reading on this one since i left it un-read for a long time now. :)

But what i would sum here is we should always EAT, love life, enjoy life, PRAY, kene selalu ingat Dia. kene slalu bermohom kat dia. and LOVE, to cherish the ones we love, spouses, family friends. All these are simple rules BUT it's just unfair to walk out on a marriage just because...


Noordini said...

Hi there. I was blog hopping and somehow stumbled into your blog. I love the way u write about how we should go out for a date with your husband. I really feel the same way too..I have been married for 2 years now and I feel at times, the spark tat we felt during our courtship was so much brighter. My hubby may not be that romantic, to cook for me and all but I always make it a point to ask him out for a movie or even a quick dinner(I said quick coz I have a little one waiting for us back home!). So yah, I think we should make sure that the spark in the relationship won't go off coz if it's off..your hubby will become nothing more than your company!Touch wood!

sayangness said...

Hi. Thanks for the beautiful thought. To me, personally, courtship could be so much brighter since we've no responsibles attached to us. As for me, im stepping my way into marriage, and ive seen a lot of married couples lost touch of dating n all just cos they're attached to work,family,etc (responsibilities). insyaAllah, if we protect and still be who we are our marriage would definitely has more sparks than ever. :)

mimi said...

IT'S GREAT to see u again miss dura!!!!hahahahahahaha
I was blog/FB hoping and I bumped into u!!what a coincidence! eh?do u still remember me??i was your 'imaginary' friend in college! hahahaha miss u dear!muah2