Sunday, July 19, 2009

LOVE is more than just a 4 letter word

A few days back as i was blog-hopping to my dearest friend Dirah's page, i was hooked with one piece she did about her love life (i love practically anything she blogs, yes Dirah, u are a great writer and i'm inspired. Remember our English classes together?) and smiled to myself knowing she was happy with herself in her own skin :) How lucky of her? Will i be lucky like her or anyone else?

Then, i kept questioning myself, what is love, actually? And started Google-ing, searching for answers. Asking myself whether have i ACTUALLY been in love, AM i in love, did he love me, all sorts of questions? So here I've actually gathered what i needed to know, what i should know and what you need to know as well.

Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences associated to a sense of strong affection and attachment. The word love can be referred to a array of diverse feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure ("I loved that shoe") to intense interpersonal attraction ("I love my boyfriend"). This variety of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even contrasted to other emotional states.


Love is an exceptionally powerful emotion; it can be irresistible and people are often bound to pursue their love interests. Love is a major theme in literature, poetry, and film.
As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep, indescribable feeling of affectionately caring for another person. Even this inadequate conception of love, however, includes a wealth of various feelings, from the avid desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religion love.


So enough about the meanings and whatever. But how do you define love?

Some say it's mysterious, magical, complex, difficult, imaginary, thought-provoking, inspirational, intuitional, joyous, immeasurable, ecstasy, and indefinable. Perhaps. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. - 1 Corinthians 13:5-7


Another is by Paramahansa Yogananda: "To describe love is very difficult, for the same reason that words cannot fully describe the flavor of an orange. You have to taste the fruit to know its flavor. So with love."


Love itself is a universal experience. Yet, every individual occurrence - while perhaps bound by a common thread - seems absolutely unique. Love is what love is! To everyone it expresses itself differently.

Love is the answer to "all" questions! It is important to stand in Love, not fall into it.
Love is waking up to find the object of your affection in the dream you were having asleep on your shoulder.

Could it be that Love is a story that can never be fully expressed? Love is seeing an imperfect person perfectly. - Sam Keen

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none. William Shakespeare

Love is a bond or connection between two people that results in trust, intimacy, and an interdependence that enhances both partners. Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you. - Leo Buscaglia


Love is friendship set on fire. - Jeremy Taylor

If you would be loved, love and be lovable. - Benjamin Franklin

When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared they won't Love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still Love you, they Love you even more. - Matthew - age 7

Logic says everything in this world has a cause and an effect. True Love is the only feeling which is its own cause and its own effect. It is something illogical and yet above all logic. I Love her because I Love her, and I Love her so I Love her. - Prateek Kumar Singh

Love is comforting someone in need of Love and having them know that somebody cares.
Love is looking past imperfections in your partner and seeing the beautiful person inside. True love seeks the happiness and well being of your partner. Love expresses itself in the mutual respect you demonstrate to your partner.

Guys, this one is for you! - Love is letting your partner have the TV remote for 30 days!

Love must be experienced. Its meaning is infinite and can never be totally defined.

The opposite of Love is fear. Think about it.

There is no fear in Love; but perfect love casts out fear.

Allah is love.

Love is loving someone without expecting anything in return; no judgments, no restrictions; no limitations; no expectations!

True Love is the nature of bliss.

Love is expressed when you are being someone who loves someone for who they are, not who you think they should be.

Love is embracing differences and discovering ways in which to build a common lifestyle, share decision-making, and taking equal responsibility for the results.

Love seeks no cause beyond itself and no fruit; it is its own fruit, its own enjoyment. I love because I love; I love in order that I may love. - St. Bernard 1090-1153, French Theologian and Reformer

Teach only Love for that is what you are. - A Course In Miracles
Love is a decision.

If you want Love, you must first Love. Love begets Love. You cannot deliver from an empty wagon. You must first learn to Love yourself before you can give Love.

"If you Loved me, you would. . ." Not! Love is not manipulative. It must never be used to get others to do what you want. When you Love someone you never ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of Love. This form of manipulation contaminates our Love for another.

Can't Buy Me Love! - The Beatles

Love is to like with a great intensity.True love has a foundation of integrity, respect, faith and trust. Love is the force that brings about unity and harmony.

Celebrate Love! - Larry James

Although love is at the root of our basic nature, Love for another human being must be cultivated. It takes time for Love to mature.

Is your love free and unconditional, or is it mixed with various needs, conditions and demands from your partner?

Love is embracing differences and discovering ways in which to build a common lifestyle, share decision-making, and take equal responsibility for the results. The road to self-discovery is paved with Love. Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it. - Martin Luther King, Jr.

Love has no meaning other than the meaning "we" give it. Perhaps. . . Love just Is. While in its allness and in its nothingness, all we need to do is simply let it Be.

To demonstrate Love. . . say, "I Love you" - outloud - at least once each day to someone you love. There is magic in these three little words. Saying "I love you" is the most beautiful gift you can give to your partner. These words are the most treasured a person can hear.

So here i am telling you that I love you. Yeah! YOU! You know who you are. I know you're going to miss my absence, my calls, my voice (pardon my high self-esteem) but i just want you to know that i love you.

3 comments:

reena said...

Babe, i love this entry!

Dulu i pernah nak tulis entry camni 'What is Love' apa semua, pastu idea hilang ntah ke mana. Haha!

sayangness said...

thnks reena. i hope u like it too :)
after so long i got the entry out, hehe

Dirah said...

aww. thanks dura. im glad you enjoy my ramblings. i believe if you write from your heart, then it'll turn out okay :)

btw i love the quotes. and yes, i believe in saying i love you to loved ones - i'd hate to think that i missed out on a chance to tell the people i love how much they mean to me because i was too scared/shy/etc.

so have a fab eurotrip babe! and i love you!